Whose fault in regards to accountability?

It's all a matter of expectations. In fact, it is unrealized expectations what turns out into frustrations. If we expect something from people and they don't deliver, chances are we will be frustrated, offended or disappointed. As it is said, you won't be disappointed if you don't expect anything. So it is in life now and before.

When we were in the Family, we didn't expect too much from people (keep your eyes in Jesus) and consoled our frustrations with the thought that there was a greater purpose we couldn't see at the time (keep your eyes in the goal). The repetitive mantra was that God's will was not that specific thing. By accepting these two simple ideas we were able to avoid or minimize the potentially damaging attitudes of frustration.

Now it is possible to see the deceiving implications of this training. It allowed our teachers and leaders to do anything they wanted without being accountable to the other members. We know this to be a fact in spite of all the different shakeups in the leadership elite. Leaders were never held accountable by the members but by their higher-ups in the hierarchy - and this was the tricky part. Accountability was only to the top leaders, never to the low disciples. The Family is a culture of yes-man (or yes-ma’am) response. Even as sincere opinions are made, criticism doesn't takes place for fear of repercussions. These fear and lack of freedom is not liberty.

...where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty. (2 Cor. 3:17)

With that simple formula we were conditioned not to ask for accountability. We had to decrease so He would increase (Jn.3:30) - and also to blind us from seeing the abuse and indoctrination. We had to decrease while they went on their merry way.

The few people who asked for accountability were silenced, ridiculed or sent out as enemies.

So, whose fault was in regards to accountability? It seems that not only the leaders who made the decisions or carried out the decisions of others but also the rest of us who stayed quiet and didn't raise our voice for the little sheep.

This maybe our chance.