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In Reply to: Re: Are F. members victims? posted by Jane on August 19, 2002 at 10:54:28:
I do commend you on your efforts and always have and of course would be more than happy if something eventually came of it. Do you think anyone in this conversation has been unkind to you? If so, please state why and how. If not, please make that clear also.
As to hopefully winning top leaders, that's a whole embarkation that's extremely risky and not one your average exmember should ever attempt, IMO. There is also a moral issue that comes into question. Would you befriend a pedophile for years and years in hopes that one day if they see the light and want to change you will be there for them? I know you think this may be an exaggerated example, but for many exmembers, it's not. Top leaders are responsible for that and much more. How about an alcoholic - would you take him to a bar and let him drink himself silly and then drive home? Probably not. I am of the opinion that if people befriend them that is like giving them the go-ahead that people approve of what they are doing, even if you don't say that or indicate otherwise. Of course, I would always be cordial to anyone, regardless of who they are, that is different than befriending them in such a manner as bringing them into your house and having them play with your children. This is simply a difference of opinion and hopefully, you will not get offended by me expressing that here. I just needed to get it out and view it before all to see how others feel.
Right now I am in a quandry about my own relations in the F. It's a big issue for me. Some offsprings and other members of my immediate family now want to take more drastic action. They are sick and fed up with the abuses and being taken advantage of for now 20 plus years. They are getting angry. So, my question to myself is, how long do we tolerate this in the hopes of someone seeing the light one day? I don't think there is a clear cut answer, necessarily. I'm still trying to find the answer myself. Please, try not to take offense.
