Conflict

I was thinking about the subject of conflict, and how much the "family-CULT" did not allow for any "rocking of the boat". I know that it is encouraged right now to just focus on other subjects, but I have got to say that the responses to the attacks there really irked me. The outcome did, to me, seem to put everybody in one heap as to losing out, or being strongly disapproved of. Even if it was not initially meant for all, I think there is a vast difference between a pattern and a normal reaction.
There are guidelines every place, which seem pretty liberal to me; and different focuses for each. But when the "battle" was addressed elsewhere, and addressed in the big aftermath, it seems some people are saying just apologize to each other, shake hands and make up. Referrals were made to the "battle" thread, but not to the flurry of slurs that followed. I think it is healthy after getting out of the family-CULT to say "No. That doesn't at all seem like the solution to me. Neither does it seem like a fair assessment." Does that mean that coordinators need to agree with me? NO. But it is valid not to want to go back considering that final assessment and how I personally felt. And I feel safer saying that over here. When a fight breaks out on the playground and the same kid keeps starting it over and over, it doesn't make sense to tell everyone that from now on recess is cancelled and you all have behaved badly. But we are adults here. Adults, outside of the family have opinions and obviously a number of people were hurt. So as an adult, I want to feel free to post this here. It is kind of like having an elephant in the living room and no one is saying anything to keep the peace. So maybe the good side of this "battle" is learning to disagree without fear of leadership, or trying to garner approval?
(I don't feel this way here. And myself, personally haven't felt that way there, until recently.) I also believe that as an adult if someone responds in a way that seems baiting to me, I can learn to ignore it, or if it gets excessive, just post to it: "IGNORE"
Whatever. Anyway, I am glad you are here. And hey, M&M, e-mail me!