"The Family" CM member: Is he/she real? Or is he/she playing a role?

About the CM F members that Joseph has contact with who have made a good impression on him. I have a daughter who is in the CM F and who is nice, sincere, friendly and she makes a good impression on those who meet her. Recently two very polite, nice, friendly CM F members passed through and we said "okay come by" (the outcome of their visit will be in another post). In fact, I was just such a sincere, nice, polite, engaging CM F member until last year.

Having been one myself I can remember the role that the F member plays when interacting with outsiders, the systemites, the contacts, the friends, the supporters, the potentials, and yes, the foes too. (Berg even called being anointed role-playing... in Glamour or Glory.)

There is something about this that you can't relate to unless you've been there. That is, to be as "deceivers yet true", which is the cornerstone criteria for any interaction that the F member must adhere to in any contact with anyone who is non-Family. It is a group think behavioral pattern influencing the role you, the CM F member plays in your contact with the outside. The art of "becoming all things to all men".

(I purposfully distinguish between CM and FM members. A lot of FM members aren’t even reading the pubs that the F sends them. So in this short dissertation I refer specifically to the CM members.)

Recently my wife wrote to our daughter in the CM F to try to explain to her how much more freedom my wife has found since she left the F (a little more than one year ago). Here's what she said: "I’m experiencing a freedom that I did not experience in the F, I don’t have to hide anything from anyone anymore. When I was in the F, and when I was with friends and supporters, people whom I dearly loved, and who loved me, there were always defensive barriers I had to put up in my mind and spirit to keep part of me and my life hidden from these dear people."

On top of the "deceivers yet true" principle there is also the pervasive-CM F-mindset-influencing-core-doctrine on being "God's elite", the ones who are "intimate" in their relationship with the "Husband", the "Bridegroom", and thereby the CM F members have become the sole recipients of enhanced spiritual powers and blessings, described as being the “new weapons of the Spirit”, and more recently “the keys”. With a belief system such as this how can the CM F member feel that the outsider he is interacting with is an equal? No way José! The non-F person is “lesser”, not in the same class as you who are one of “God's elite”.
I remember so well when I was a CM member who was disobedient to some important charter rules, for the life of me I could never keep the alcohol rules for example, anyway I would visit FM members, and somehow I felt that I had something they didn’t because I could read the CM GNs and that they weren’t deserving enough to read because they were only FM. As hard as I tried to interact without feeling “class distinctions” it was impossible.

And it is impossible for CM F members to treat and interact with non F members as their equals, as fellow human beings living on the same planet, all of us created by the same Creator, or if you’re agnostic all of under the same sun.

A CM F member will be hiding a lot from you in your interactions with him/her. He/she is bound. You can’t really see it unless you’ve been there.