Men were victims in FFing and sharing

I was thinking about this after I read a post from some exmember talking about how hard it was to have his wife go out FFing and sharing her with other brethren and how that ruined his marriage. It just broke my heart and made me realize a lot is being said about the women in the group and how they suffered, but the men suffered too. At least those who didn't revel in the free love theories. It must have been awful to have your wife out all night with God knows who doing God knows what. But they couldn't say anything or be viewed as unloving and unsacrificial.