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In Reply to: Can "Far too many" suggest soemthing positive? (NT) posted by A Reader on July 17, 2002 at 05:43:52:
f--k off and stay away from us?
thats what most of them say to old farts . not that i blame any sga s . but that's just as stupid as saying to your parents "i wish i was never born, you shouldn't have had me, your not the kind of parents i would like to have at all" stupid because they gave you life and you are able to say that hateful opinion thanks to them . stupid because almost anybody with bad parents can say "you didnt have to join this or join that or move here or move there or mary so and so or be this or be that, and you affected me badly . i said the same thing to my parents to . but i had a lot to learn then . things change when you become a parent yourself and you know the one inexcapable lesson your children bring you is : you fail, and you fail miserably .
as a parent you also learn that you are capable of doing things you wish you never did, that you dont live up to your own standards, you never learn fast enough and you make the same mistakes your own stupid parents made, and that you die stupid because you always learn when its finaly too late .
one stupid thing is to throw the "you failed me" line at adults. they fall for it all the time because they do fail and it is their weak spot . spoiled rich brat kids throw that at their parents all the time saying how bad their life is just to get their way to .
alot of these harsh sga voices come from people who arent parents themselves .
i dont want to take away from the fact that we are talking about something very serios like having parents who are into prostitution and crime or worse . if anyone had parents like that, they ask questions like that to at some point . but that is often just a face in someones life . it is a typical period in young people . we all go through it sometime .
yes people suffered, young and old, first and second generation, evrybody in their own way. the problem didnt start just because someone got stupid and joined acult . joining a cult is a symtom of the failure of society and family life . many fga´s who joined were also very unhappy with their abusive life and they joined because they thoght they were going into somthing doog . and they made mistakes and stayd for to long . people make mistakes . parents make horible mistakes . children make mistakes to keep talking about their parents. later in life usually when they leave behind their 20´s they realize that to grow up and take respnsibility they have to stop blaming their parents for what they went thrugh. separating yourself from your parents sin and finding yourself is a part of life.
