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In Reply to: Letting sleeping dogs lie posted by goth88 on July 15, 2002 at 10:18:54:
I come from a family whose culture is to be very demonstrative and outgoing. Also, the fur flies quite often and sometimes too much, but everyone knows where everyone stands. I married into a family where it was just the opposite, they were used to holding in their emotions and any display of emotions that wasn't made of steel was considered in bad taste and you were looked down upon - you can imagine how my marriage went. In the F., of course, you could never say your true feelings or else be branded a murmurer or negative or bitter - you know the story. Leaving the F. I had to cope with all these discrepencies. I ended up going to college and just so happens took a sociology class from a former "fish." He was also a former Baptist minister, in spite of all that he was a really nice guy. He had a whole class on emotions, getting things out and putting things on the table. He said the worst thing his parents could have done for him was to not talk about their problems and pretend that everything was hunky dory and just fine. Because of that, he said, he was never able to learn good problem solving skills and personal relationship skills. He said he would rather have a yelling family then one that goes quiet and doesn't talk. I agree. Let's get it out with all the yelping and yelling we can do!!!!! whoopieeeeee.
