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In Reply to: to ray - did I read this right? posted by marina on July 11, 2002 at 03:54:24:
i replied to this post on ndn, and still don't know how to repost it here. when you read the reply i think you will realize why i did not carry on this discussion here. it may be innappropriate to discuss it anywhere that there is such a mixed forum of readers, some of whom may have been the ones to have recieved the type of horrific abuse you so vividly describe.
i don't blame you for your antagonistic attitude towards the scripture, given your experience. i am reluctant to discuss brass tacks of others in this forum. given they are not my tacks, it would seem quite wrong to me. i have never witnessed anything of the nature of what you described. and the cool, exegetical approach would be totally innappropriate in a conversation w/ a person of your personal experience, belief system (as i understand it) etc. i was addressing the question, respectfully, to another believer , who given his unique insight, and spiritual perspective, i was asking to comment on a statement made by a well known and widely respected christian author and counselor who has dealt widely w/ sexual assault victims, incest victims, rape victims etc...often in religious settings. if you had read the question in the context of the discussion, then i don't know what to say. as i said to rocky, perhaps my having been a male leader in the family disqualifies me from even discussing the issue. i actually try to avoid this board because i do feel that both my family past, and my theological present, are so out of sync w/ most posters here it would lead more to misunderstandings ,triggers,etc. then shedding any useful light in either direction.
i found rocky's post very helpful. it still left me with questions from a theological veiwpoint, but in my reply tried to make it clear if he felt it would be unhelpful to discuss in this forum, please just say so. i did not repost this here. i'm not sure who did or why. i guess they felt it was appropriate, even tho i didn't.
i can't remember what else you asked me about my career in the family, the whole deal w/ the consort thing.etc. just for the record, it was not a position i applied for, and when interveiwed for it i was rejected...too independent, if you can believe that of a mindless zombie w/o a clue such as me, sweet tho i am.
marina, i don't know what else to say. i am so so sorry to here about your pain, your kids pain, etc. we have had our battles getting on w/ life from where we left, but nothing like yours. i wish you peace, for whatever that is worth.
