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In Reply to: "Sharing the same kind of gentle love & fun" posted by Reposter on June 17, 2002 at 21:40:40:
Mekka: I am so glad we got out of that group. My GOD!! that is so disgusting. To think some people thought that was revolutonary sex and to me, people who still remain in the Family are saying to the world that they support those teachings. even though, it was 20 years ago. Just because they are still in the group. That says to the world they believe in CHILD SEX. Why would anybody want to be in a group with a history like that? There are so many real missionary groups out there that don't have perverted teachings. Those poor kids.
Ex-member responded:
You know, they've been out 15-20 years and they just don't want to believe that these quotes exist so every time they read them, they turn a blind eye and pretend they don't exist. All they want are the happy memories and to think that they were really "'serving god'" when they were in the Family. So things like remembering all the child abuse and the Mo quotes about it spoil the pretty dream and they don't want to wake up. So they ignore, cover up and turn a blind eye to all this horror.
I think part of it is they're not ready to deal with the fact that they WASTED years of their time. As long as they can block out the child abuse and other heavy stuff, they can maintain the dream and don't have to wake up. But as soon as they get their brain around the fact that the "'Prophet'" was a pedofile and taught the Family to abuse their kids--and people DID it--then it ruins the dream.
Then instead of being able to remember the good old days when they were out serving God they have to think, "I was in a cult where the leader was a pedofile and encouraged everyone to abuse kids." Then you either have to deal with that and admit you shot 20 years of your life, or maybe 15 of the 20 were really wasted.
Or you get tunnel vision. You focus only on the "'good things'" that were around when you joined and block out the Davidito book. And you never move on, never suffer the grief, never have to deal with the loss. Like the Simon & Garfunkel song said, "I am a rock. I am an island. And a rock feels no pain. And an island never cries."
To maintain a dream is a lot of work. And it's self-deception.
