Posted by Monika Kosz on March 18, 2005 at 18:42:35
In Reply to: Re: One question at a time posted by Perry on March 18, 2005 at 17:47:43:
You really do not need to worry because I did not get nervous. I am generally very patient person now, although I did not used to be. It seems to me that you think I asked my questions to get on your nerves, because now I need an excuse. Was I impolite to you? Tell me if I was, because I did not mean to. As for your post I do not think you went overboard, it was not unpleasant to me but rather confusing, because I seem to comunicate badly with people through the Internet (face to face communication is for sure a lot easier). I must, however admit that likening my intentions to the intentions of the sect members:
'By the way, when your project is completed, will you make it available for us, or do you intend to just take advantage of us, like the cult did.' is unfair and harmful.
Maybe the word understand was not the proper one to use, I know that you were harmed is better. Would you agree? I wrote before that I had not shared your experiences which does not mean that I did not have any bitter ones that you cannot know about.
Sometimes it occurs that when you ask 5 people who had the same experience the same questions, they give you different answers. Why should I rely on the materials that are on the site and would not willing to go over them once more. I thought that the board is created for the research purposes, but you do not let me do my research by saying I ask questions I should not. Is the topic of the structure and other organizational phenomena so well described that there is no need for further research?
By more focused questions you mean closed ones? (with yes/no answer).
I think it would be arrogant to boast off my knowledge. You are the expert in the topic, as you said you spent 20 years in the sect, not me. I believe I have basic understanding of TF.
When my project is completed I will personally send it to the people that made some contribution (maybe also to you). However, you have not been very helpful as far as my research is concerned and by the way the decision about being present on the board is yours. After your second post I feel as if I forced you to answer me.
If you are nice be nice next time because I am trying so hard to be comprehensive. If any exposure of the sects is good help me to make this explosure more reliable.
Sorry for my spelling mistake there obviously should be organizational. If there are any grammatical or spelling mistakes or sentences that sound odd tell me. The opinion of the native speaker is always perceived as valuable.
As far the sociologist I do not think she would be very surprised, I think she would be able to explain the lack of communication between us. I am bound to touch this topic with her if I have the opportunity.
Summing up, I still hope I will get some answer from you, because I believe it is a matter of trust not understanding.